In my family, I’m known as “The Fixer” — the one everyone calls when they need guidance. Have a problem? Call Yael. Need motivation? Call Yael. Ironically, I often feel like the most stuck and unhealthy member of our family.

Each day repeats the last. I go to work, solve problems, and respond to family and friends’ needs. Yet by the end of the day, I’m physically and emotionally drained, often too tired to pursue my own dreams. I find myself on the couch, regretting inaction, and questioning my choices.

Why can’t I do for myself what I do for others?

One morning, while following my usual ritual of listening to Ana b’Ko’ach on YouTube, I let the video continue. It led me to a podcast featuring two rabbis discussing food, health, and money. One statement struck me deeply:

“Our unresolved issues are opportunities for growth that Hashem places before us.”

It was a simple sentence — but it changed how I saw my daily struggle. I realized that my health, my habits, and my self-care are not separate from my purpose — they are part of it.

I often feel alive only when “rescuing” someone else. As “The Fixer,” I wait for the next call to solve another’s problem. But maybe my inability to prioritize my own health is one of the unresolved issues Hashem wants me to grow through.

If I neglect myself, I miss part of the purpose I was given. Overeating? I need restraint. Laziness? It’s time to move. Boundaries? I need them to protect my health, energy, and spirit.

By trusting Hashem and embracing the journey laid before me, I can grow into a version of myself that is fully alive, healthy, and ready to engage with life — and to truly support others from a place of strength.

I am taking a leap of faith, walking the path Hashem intended. Growth, learning, and purpose are waiting — I just need to trust the journey.

This is not selfishness. If I am not the healthiest version of myself, I cannot fully help others. My mind, body, and soul deserve attention. I know the path is gradual, but I’m excited to take it one step at a time, guided by Torah and faith in Hashem.

Podcast that inspired this reflection: Listen here

Until next time, 

Yael